my girlfriend spends too much time on tiktok

It's not that special, and creepy desperate men aren't actually something she should be bragging about. Vignesh Shiva-Nayantharas Wedding Picture, Terms of Use and Grievance Redressal Policy. After you and your partner arrive at a mutual understanding, you should immediately set some ground rules like a fixed time for social media browsing. Unfortunately, how your loved one handles social media can create a sense of insecurity in a relationship, which wasnt there previously.

If she talking about strangers on the internet as if they somehow compare to you. Tell her that, but this sounds like a messed up situation. But doesnt end up showing up. When she always wants to spend time w me . Her fame only grows from here. Saying I could leave you because is abusive in my book. It seems like you got mad cause her tiktok got viral and she got more attention from some random guys. She needs to calm the hell down and get a reality check. If you answered yes to this question, how effectively do you broach the subject so that he or she does not feel intimidated or accuse you of invading their privacy? From what I've seen from my friends and peers on social media over the years, "those boys who actually wanted her" are actually mostly self-serving jerks trying to feel better on the internet and would consider her a trophy of their "alpha male" or "nice guy" achievement rather than as a person with nuance and details. I deleted the app. Its algorithm based and responds to what you respond to?

It sounds like you should talk to her and tell her how that made you feel. According to relationship experts, its always better to address the issue directly. (They're probably real people, but they're so far removed from reality they might as well be fake) I hope you aren't feeling threatened by them, and I hope your girlfriend doesn't take them seriously as a plan B. Thats all this is, but. Im gonna gift you bro stay happy and hold your head high.

They actually want her? You'll save yourself alot of hurt if you cut your losses now. Yeah it's normal. I'm not sure if she's suffering from a momentary inflated ego (which, when she comes down will be rough for her, but that's not something you have to deal with), or if she is the type of person who will use whatever she can to act like she's better than you. She is addicted to the drug of attention. If she is not receptive and just puts you down then that's probably a good sign it's not going to be a healthy future.

Over the next couple of days she wouldnt stop talking about all of the thirsty boys in her comment section. They should break up and date different people. Whats wrong with you? or Your behaviour towards me has changed because you have found more interesting people on social media. Please dont use such statements while discussing a problem. If you resorted to such behaviour, it will surely backfire. Yes it is a selfish thing for her to say and it's an unfair way for her to treat you. Neither is ok but even good people lash out unreasonably sometimes. Sometimes you can be too busy to have a partner and thats ok. Not saying its your fault at all, just wanted to say that first part. I have been unhappy since the beginning of high school. Being a busy dude is not an excuse to not pay attention to your girlfriend. Cant do that one. Id get out if I were you.

Too bad OP is a troll.

Threats like that are childish and show you her true colors. Follow your ho dreams, ex-gf. That sounds a bit sus to me/like there might be something else going on here. If she meant what she said, or he thinks may even act on it, then yeah; leave her and don't look back. An AC vent under your seat and other Qatar World Cup facts, India @ 75: Why India chose not to be called Hindustan, Beware of social media 'polarisers' out to divide India, Why defence of India is not a job creation scheme, We have sent you a verification email. For now, just talk through about it. Well, its not an easy thing to do. Let's work together to keep the conversation civil. We aim to keep this a safe space. I honestly wish I could see mens Reddit profiles before dating them, because every single man on here save for a few would get a hard pass. fame got to her head REAL quick. Some people need more attention than others can give and that's perfectly fine. How long have they been together? Thats normal.

Make a TikTok of you dumping her and go viral yourself. LMAO. Even if she is just being kind of playful about it, it's not funny. I know that Ive been scrolling for hours but then theres just SO much content out there on so many different topics. If she threatened you with leaving you just like that once, nothing is stopping her from doing it again and she most likely will. Thanks fer the heads-up. She obviously thinks she has a higher value than you and doesnt care about it. The proliferation of TikTok is honestly one of the worst things Ive seen on the internet. It's not. Dont let people treat you like this. 222 Likes, 10 Comments. Yea bro its time to roll shes basically telling you shes probably going to cheat on you find someone else.

Tell how its affecting the time you both spend together rather than concentrating only on yourself. Dude, you could have a million views on tiktok and its still just a tiktok. Go be successful while she gets her little 5 minutes of fame.

Just started watching Justified so this made me laugh way too hard.

TikTok video from Nayeli (@.brand..notfound): "#fyp". The audio is so annoying.

If you think she is worth overcoming this then set some boundaries (for yourself and your feelings) on what YOU are and are not ok with.

Also, been in this same sort of position. when she wants to genuinely spend time with you all the time>>>. Watching endless videos featuring larger-than-life influencers everyday really ruins your brain. He needs a girlfriend who doesnt want attention- clearly. We'll listen, and if you want, we'll talk.

A million views 20 years ago? I don't think that makes him a troll nor does the content of his post history suggest he is one.

If someone makes a threat like this, just tell them you are not interested in being manipulated and they need to think about whether they want to be in a relationship with you and you will do the same.

But I know for me, that might even be a deal breaker because it's such a lame, bullshit threat that basically says "I'm so desirable, I don't need you, so consider yourself lucky I've chosen you.".

Shell be forgotten in 5 swipes before they even close the app.

separate any joint accounts/property then ghost.

Go find someone more humble and preferably hates social media.

If she does get more famous rather than how minuscule she is now, itll be much much worse. Probably not, that's pretty toxic. Leave her shes for the streets now and Im guessing you two are young. Help us delete comments that do not follow these guidelines by marking them offensive. All the men calling her a ho and a bitch, just ugh.

If all you stop scrolling for is garbage then you yourself are telling it to keep feeding you garbage? Ooooh no, that's wheelie bin taken out context I imagine. Its not normal its unhealthy and shows insecurity on her part. Your post history is wildly inconsistent about your age which makes me doubt this post.

This account should just get disabled. No, shes letting it go all to her head and shes being manipulative.

Getting a million views now?

Never be someone's silver medal, OP.

If it's cute animals then it probably does anyway. It's never acceptable to make threats like that. She'll find out nobody but you actually gave a shit about her in a week. When she WANTS to spend time with you. Also, these rules should apply to both. Godbless. If I were you, Id leave. Shes comparing empty attention from strangers with her actual boyfriend, thats all you need to know right there.

Yeah she's probably right. Tiktok fame is fleeting, so if she wants to let it go to her head and throw away what you have, well that tells you everything you need to know. Honestly she seems toxic, if she wants to be with some thirsty boy off TikTok instead of someone who actually cares about her. Atleast your acknowledging the problem. Not trying to be a dick, just have a migraine. Lmao wanting to love and grow old with somebody and wanting to stick your dick in somebody are two different things, She can take that trashy, raggedy shit on somewhere sounds like you found out she values attention over realism, Leave her. I either hope she comes down soon, or you're in a LOT of trouble and should leave her now. I don't have Tik Tok bc something about that app is so scary to me. Deffinately it's 50/50 whether if it's normal or not but talk to her and even explain that you care for her but you are very busy. 429 Likes, 8 Comments. When she wants to hangout all the time. No. Ew. Tiktok absolutely means nothing in the real world. her true colors showed with her 5 minutes of fame, she will fade away like the rest of them. Its a fake post.

Being vapid is not a nice personality trait to have in a partner. She showed you her true self. It's definitely not normal, but people say dumb shit in the heat of an argument. He seems to have adjusted his age to get better reception from reddit. You don't have much time invested in the relationship, and you deserve to be with someone who treats you better than that. Flip it on its head and the double standards will appear.

When you explain that your partners bhaviour is affecting the relationship, you might also have to answer how you monitored his or her behaviour? (M19). Bang her a couple more times then bounce.

She got eaten up by it pretty damn fast. Leave, that is such a big red flag. Besides the fact that it affects the time your partner spends with you, what other factors make you uncomfortable about your partners social media behaviour? its not difficult to post thirst traps and to get lots of views. Leave her and she will go for one of those thirsty boys, realize they comment on everyones tik toks, her 15 mins of fame will be over and shell realize that really shes nothing special shell come crawling back. Relationships are tough, and at your age they are a lot about learning what you like and don't like in other people and learning how to be a good partner. First off, i don't fuck with tik tok dances cuz what's the fucking point anyway, i donnt find them entertaining at all. It's okay to break up with someone. My husband is having an affair with his boss, "My husband doesn't sleep with me anymore", "Mine is a loveless marriage and I have been having an affair with my tenant", "My wife insisted on a hefty pre-nuptial agreement before marriage". Its important to know the real reason behind your discomfort. And if you truly are a busy man, working toward a better, more fruitful life, then you don't need this nonsense distracting you. I had an ex I was pretty brutal to, and thankfully I realized it a couple years later so I dont repeat the behavior.

i got told i had the same trim as him most deppressing moment of my life. Surely random thirsty guys she doesn't know, watching TikToks online will be reliable and well matched romantic partners.

I agree, it is fucked up. A tiny bit of fame simply sparks what was already there to begin with, now you can see her true personality out in the open.

It seems like she doesn't know how to respect and be in a serious relationship. Its normal, most x girlfriends have that issue. Sounds like the viral views have gone to her head, it will be forgotten in a week, but the effects of the attention might not fade as fast and she might find it changes her. Your post is lacking in detail on that aspect of your relationship so it's hard to comment on it, but being super busy isn't a permanent excuse for not being present.

Shit goes viral on that constantly. And while doing so, you can't give out much of the attention that somebody might want.

Is it normal for a girlfriend to threaten the relationship in an argument. Going viral 10 years ago vs going viral now are not the same thing, shell be forgotten about by next week. Tik tok Thot. This is not normal behavior. Right in the sense that the give/need ratio of attention is off which caused this whole thing. Idek what to do about it. u're a troll judging by your post history. You need to work, study etc. TikTok video from Not KeAmodre (@notuglyredd): "". That's not so bad maybe. Its time for the break up and let her choose her next boyfriend in the comment section. I'd give it some time for reality to set in for her and decide where to go from there.

"he had blackmailed her into sailing with him" Maybe suggest setting a time limit or offering to do a different activity with her? My ex would spend hours slumped over frothing at the mouth at girls hotter than her on IG pretty sure its terrible for her brain, I kind of feel this for maybe a different reason.

Where will her one Tiktok bring her in a year.

Tell her to get a skill, get a job, and work for a living then dump her ass . I think its worse than other social media apps mainly in terms of ruining self esteem IMO.

Leave that ho*, shes clearly got too big of an ego, its not hard to go viral on tiktok lmao. You know what happens when people get that much attention and they suddenly become yesterdays news? If she wasn't like this before then it will go either back to normal or she will get addicted to the attention. I work for TIKTOK. Well, she did show you her true character, all that remains is whether you'd want to be together with someone who so easily jumps to threats.

Theres a lot of really pathetic external validators on there going through some kind of midlife crisis and keyboard warriors and teenage trolls telling them how awful they are. ppl are using my sound omg. Jeezus. Theyd love to pump and dump her. If she is doing this after one TikTok, homie you are getting a free trial of how bad she really is. But she also seems to have concerns about you not giving her enough attention. Your subscription is confirmed for news related to biggest developments in health, medicine and wellbeing.

It's having firm boundaries, and not letting yourself get walked over. How old is she?! Her saying she could leave you for one of her little "fans" because she feels like you apparently don't pay her the attention she wants is a threat. If I were you, I'd dip. But if shes like me then she likely KNOWS how much time it consumes and feels guilty about it. How do you address FATHER in different languages, How your child responds to discipline and scolding, based on zodiac signs, Male fertility: The best age to become a father, as per studies, The value of Indian ingredients for skincare, Hottest makeup inspirations to take from BLACKPINK's Lisa, 7 home remedies to keep body odour at bay, All you need to know about using red onion hair oil for hair, Everything you wanted to know about micro fat grafting, From avoiding horizontal lines in resumes to getting a red lamp, top Feng Shui tips to attract your dream job, Weekly career horoscope: 11th to 17th June 2022, From TATA Group to Dr Lal Pathlabs, here's how much the top CEOs make, 86% Indian employees are expected to resign in 6 months: Recruitment agency, How to manage office breakups, as per zodiac signs, 5 ways to help employees handle performance anxiety and setbacks at work, Late Punjabi singer Sidhu Moose Wala's pet dogs refuse food, Unrecognized contributions of women in society, "I lost my husband 6 months ago, I'll never be whole again", The time I spent in Satyajit Ray's fantasy land. Just had one tiktok to viral lol so yea shes def letting it go to her head. drop the b*tch, it aint that hard bruh.

To me it doesn't look like she's focused on making sure you're happy. RUN. Situations and commented "advice" alike. If she thinks boys on the internet actually want her in the same way that you do after seeing her do some dance on tiktok, shes new to the internet. If that kind of relationship isnt the one for you, then its going to be nothing but toxic for you. Be open to discussion and explain your problem logically.

This is an issue that most millennial couples face.

Do nothing, it probably makes her happy?

Just saying because all you got to do is do something sexual and within minutes, people will comment, nice video! Like this is how stupid people in this generation are. It enhances what was already there. original sound. Everyone needs attention and affection, some need less and some need more, it doesn't make you a bad person either way ya just gotta find the people you click with. So no its definitely not normal, Id break it off now while you can, but thats just me. Lmao, its always been a fear of mine that a girl I like goes TikTok famous its not a good thing the amount of thirsty guys in the comments and shit I wouldnt be comfortable with it at all, Bro dont let that fear hold anything back from yourself, if your that lucky to have numerous girls your worried about that happening to, your doing something right the majority of girls who go viral on there, are mad thirsty for attention. Inly form I have is reddit and rarely use it. Real talk, a woman can almost always find a dude thirsty for her on social media and she just proved to you she is willing to.

Its abusive talk. So you might need to consider whether you're even at a point in your life where you can commit to a relationship with her or anyone.

TikTok video from JP De Leon (@supahjp): "my girlfriend is my personal insomnia cure #supahjp". Orrr she thinks she's hot stuff now because her stupid dance got views on TikTok and is developing the ego to go with it. TikTok is the worst. I mean the first thing she said she can leave him and get with another dude. lmaoo my wife is addicted to Instagram reels, it use to bug me a little but then I realized its her fun/humor not mine and who am I to ruin her enjoyment.

You kind of have to guess based on how well you know someone as to how serious the threat is. Honestly as someone who gets sucked into TikTok so easily, its really frustrating! Fuck that fear of yours. Refrain from posting comments that are obscene, defamatory or inflammatory, and do not indulge in personal attacks, name calling or inciting hatred against any community. I'd tell her to get with one of her admirers if she wants to so badly.

Looking at your post history you said you were 19 2 days ago and and a lonely 16 year old 3 months ago. She got likesso what? You can change your city from here. Talk to her about what she needs and that you are just very busy and see what you can change between you as she seems to be feeling neglected. Drop her of u cant handle it but she sees like she sucks. Or, supports a political view you dont approve of? Say what you mean and mean what you say. /u/Top-Fee4454 is a troll, don't get too angry, it's a made-up situation. Go ahead and have them! And then end the relationship. What I'm getting at is, that you are both right and wrong.

TikTok video from Dimples (@dimples_416): "#chasingsunsets #fyp #countrymusic #vibin #hoplessromantic #foryou #drivingvibes #mood". If you're getting into arguments so rough that one person is threatening to leave just to hurt the other, then it's time to end it.